Wednesday, November 10, 2004

fifty ways to leave your low self-esteem lover

When I read He's Just Not That Into You recently, I was surprised that there wasn't a chapter titled "He's Just Not That Into You If He Completely Hates Himself." I suppose he could, in fact, actually be into you if he completely hates himself, but it would seem to make things sufficiently difficult that you might expect a guy writing a book of advice-for-lovelorn-women to weigh in on it. Case in point: A couple I know are currently/cyclically in this spat because he keeps going on about how he is so worthless that she must only be going out with him because she has no other options. She gets upset and tells him that she feels insulted by his saying that nobody else wants her. Which only ends up annoying him, because he thinks she should understand that his self-loathing is About Him rather than making everything About Her all the time.

"Why can't I just be dating an egomaniac jerk like all the other girls?" she asks.

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

Woah. She should totally dump his ass. Can't he see how hurtful that must be to her? It is just like a man to be that self involved. I hope you tell your friend that she can do better than this loser. But an egomaniac jerk? That's no good! Maybe she should consider dating women.

jeremy said...

What I would love to do is hook my friend up with the Lonely Donut Man who was a commenter on posts a couple of weeks ago. Whatever happened to you, Lonely Donut Man?

dorotha said...

whatevs, dude. we all know you are really LDM. quit posting anonymously to your own blog!

jeremy said...

No, I'm not LDM. I did wonder if you were LDM, though. I think it's actually one of Nina's family members who leaves the comments about Poland and feral children, just to rile her up.

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Anonymous said...

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