A pal of mine recently came to the conclusion that her malaise was the result of her not having a man in the life and that she had exhausted all the traditional routes of man-meeting available in her city. And, so, she concluded: she either had to go on antidepressants or try online personals. These being each alternatives that she had previously declared Might Work For Some People But Were Not For Her.
Me, being forever a fan of twofers, advised: why not both? She decided, however, that antidepressants were the lesser evil, and signed up for an appointment with a psychiatrist. The psychiatrist agreed to escort her onto the Prozac Promenade, but he also said: you know, it really sounds like you should try online dating. And, so, cringing at first and being unable to look at the screen with both eyes open at once, she did.
She put up an ad just before going out for the day. Being a female who is both attractive and appealing when so inclined, she had something like 19,000 responses waiting for her when she returned. Unfortunately, some 18,995 or so of these completely creeped her out. "When people talk about how you have to kiss a thousand frogs to find your prince, I didn't realize that so many were going to be sicko perv frogs who make you feel like you need a delousing after reading their messages." From this, she resolved that she was only going to be able to pursue one online prospect at once--she would have to see that prospect all the way to its conclusion before she could entertain another. At the same time, her initial culling left two at-least-tepid possibilities who could be the first prospect for her to follow.
This, in turn, has required her to confront the matter of figuring out what her own romantic dealbreakers are (for recent posts on the same topic, see here and here).
In her case, conversations with the two men in question each led to a possible dealbreaker. The issue here is less her ability to get past these particular things as it is speculating about the probability of unpleasant sequelae that these things might portend. In evaluating these, the best short description I could make of my friend is that we generally have similar tastes and outlook on things, except she is more frugal, more disdainful of anything ostentatious, and more swiftly bored by others. Her options:
Bachelor #1: Favorite movie is "Conan the Barbarian."
Bachelor #2: While he is a liberal who greatly dislikes George W. Bush, he would not, himself, name a fondness for George W. Bush as being something that would be a dealbreaker for him in a prospective partner.
Bachelor #3: Absolutely unknown, as he would be the next person she decides is worth elevating to prospect status if she files Bachelors #1 and #2 in the rejected romance bin.
Advice? Do these seem like reasonable dealbreakers for someone like my friend, or does it seem like she's throwing a potential prince into the froggie-shredder too early?