Monday, March 20, 2006

my uncling days started before kindergarten

Last week I turned 35. Today, my oldest niece turns 30, and another niece will also turn 30 this year. Having nieces only 5 years younger than you is the sort of thing that happens when your mother is relatively old when you are born. How old? My mother gave birth to me when she was 35.

15 comments:

careyoke said...

I am so glad my mom was way late in marriage/births for her generation. It has really taken the pressure off. She got married at 35, had my older sisters at 36 and 38 and me at 41.

Rhymes With Scrabble said...

Yeah, my mother was 33 when I was born, and I'm the oldest. I agree with careyoke about it taking the pressure off somewhat.

Anonymous said...

(JECG) I had my (14-month-old) son when I was 33, so I wonder if he will feel the same way when he is an adult. Then again, I'm probably "on time" for my generation, so it might not be so noticeable. And he's a he, so the pressure may not even exist for him when he grows up.

Anonymous said...

I think this sort of thing happens far more often not to women who were 35 when they had their last baby but rather to women who were teenagers when they had their first. You're only telling part of the story. My mother was 33 when she had me and my only neice isn't two yet.

--EA

Tom Volscho said...

the good thing is that presumably you do not have down's syndrome as the risk factor increases greatly for women over 30...I was born when my mom was 39

Rhymes With Scrabble said...

Tom: that's how my parents found out the sex of my youngest sister. They had genetic testing done, and the genetic counselor showed them the karyotype and explained how my sister didn't have any identified abnormalities, and then she said, "I forget... did you want to know the sex?" My father allowed as how it was a good thing they did, since he's a geneticist.

(I used to think that this story was about me. But I was wrong. I guess it just seemed more interesting that way.)

Siebens said...

Mother's age at child #1 birth: 21
Mother's age at child #11 birth (me): 42
Age at which I became an aunt: 7.5
Number of grandkids my mom now has: 14
Pressure on me to EVER have kids: Zero.

Whew.

Tonya said...

My son was born when I was 29 and the vast majority of my friends and coworkers had their first child in their mid- to late-30s.

Oh, and my neice Alex is older than one of her uncles (my youngest brother), who was born 2 years after her.

Anonymous said...

I do truly, truly hope you live to be old. So you'll know what 35 truly, truly is.

islander said...

Relatively OLD? Relative to what?

Absolut said...

Okay, but so the interesting question that no one seems to have asked yet is this: how old was your Mom, Jeremy, when she gave birth to her first child?

Tom Volscho said...

Isn't there an EP hypothesis that older parents (or maybe only fathers) produce more "intelligent" offspring?

Rhymes With Scrabble said...

Oldest children score highest on IQ tests, don't they? And isn't it hypothesized that it's because they get sole parental investment before the birth of siblings? I wonder if youngest children with a significant age gap from next youngest, like Jeremy, might get even more total kin investment since older siblings are not as much of a drain on parents and might themselves invest in the baby of the family.

jeremy said...

I believe that studies show that firstborns score like a point higher on IQ tests than laterborns, although the reasons why are uncertain. Parental investment is one theory.

jeremy said...

Absolut: My mother was 17 when she had her first child (and had her second just under a year later).